A recent mass murder has been attributed to a member of the Incel community. I’d never heard of Incels until about 6 weeks ago when I read an article regarding making astute financial investments based on the rise of Incels (buying shares in trashy romance novels, Japanese sex robots and porn websites). All the articles I’ve read covering the link between the murders and Incel’s seem to be taking the point that the Incel community must be “banned” or labelled “Terrorists”. I don’t see how that will help and I speculate that the authors are merely feminists opportunistically taking a swipe at men’s groups. I also don’t think it is helpful to confuse the murderer being a part of a community and a person becoming a murderer because of a community. I’d like to respond with a different take on things.
The Sexual Marketplace
I suspect that we are living through an age that will be remembered by its development of the sexual market place as much as for any other development. For the first time in millennia, people are finding their sexual partners by trying to market themselves to the highest bidder. If you can appear attractive enough, you may secure a high big in the marketplace. But if you are unattractive enough, you may never succeed in finding a buyer. This is incredibly sad when one stops to think about it.
Fortunately, there have been those that have been trying to fix the this problem since the 1990’s. You probably know these people by the name “Manosphere” or “Red Pill” community. People within this community believe that women should be able to choose whatever partner she wants for herself, but also acknowledge that the externality of such an arrangement is that there will be those that never get chosen. What shall we do with these ‘unchoosables’?
This first solution to the problem is for other men to find these ”unchoosables” and help them become something that will be chosen more often. I think this solution makes up the vast majority of the manosphere. Examples of what might be taught to men who need help are;
- Don’t drink or take drugs;
- Get up at 5am every morning;
- Do 100 pushups, 100 situps and 100 squats before 7am;
- Fast until 12pm and then eat one meal for lunch and one meal for dinner. Serves should by approx 30% Carbs, 40% protein and 30% fats;
- Carry a notepad and pen and at 7am write down 3 things that you will achieve today and then achieve them;
- Read one book a fortnight;
- Never watch porn or masturbate;
- If you are single, ask 5 girls out a week;
- If you are married, try and make love to your wife 3 times a week;
- Dress your best every day; and
- Stand up straight, don’t mumble when you speak and always make eye contact
Men will gather in tribes and try and help each man to achieve these things and more in an attempt to make them the best man they can be. Part of being a good man is to have a wife and to keep her respect. The items on the list above help with that task too. The man that can pull off a successful marriage becomes known as a family alpha. He is not trying to be the dominant alpha of society, his tribe or even the whole world, just the dominant male in his family’s life.
Then there is another group that think that a man needs a women like a fish needs a bicycle. They are known as Men Going There Own Way (MGTOW). Guys here accept that dating/marrying/loving a women is either impossible or undesirable. In their chosen life after women they try and find meaning among each other as brothers in a common struggle. Gaming and online communities seem to feature heavily in their outlook on how to survive without wives. I’m not sure what MGTOW’s are going to do about having children. I believe they think that all of society is doomed to suffer terribly at the hands of the sexual marketplace and they are merely the smartest players in the game and are enjoying the decline of society as best they can.
I really don’t know anything about them. If what I read in the media can be believed, it doesn’t sound good. I’ll wait for the members of this group to speak for themselves as the MSM is untrustworthy at best.
Correct course of action
If one assumes that sexual marketplace dynamics will govern the decisions men make on how to live, then we must
- find a way of finding success within the marketplace for all men;
or in the event of success not being an option due to either being “unchoosable” or the male experience of being chosen is deemed undesirable,
- a way of finding men acceptable lives without women.
Unfortunately, it has been our experience that all options discussed become besieged by an axis of Feminism, SJWs and the mainstream media. Any attempt at finding a way for men to be more successful with women is dismissed as ‘Pick Up Artistry’ and categorised as a systematic attempt at herding women into a trap. In reality it’s just telling men to pack on the muscle, show a bit of dress sense, act with purpose and be as interesting as you can be. Any attempt at living without women is categorised as the systematic devaluation of women for no other reason that misogyny. In reality is just trying to make the best of a bad situation.